tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1291141841534650941.post2427450616692040095..comments2023-04-07T10:36:09.329-04:00Comments on Someone Else's Eye: Quiet, Please!Elaine Bennett @BizSpeechwriterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09421029607739611618noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1291141841534650941.post-38696310134386864352010-06-10T23:47:55.167-04:002010-06-10T23:47:55.167-04:00I too have been using this practice more and more ...I too have been using this practice more and more in my daily interactions. When in conversation, I like to see how long of an actively engaged pause I can create without it seeming strange to the other person. This often gives the other person a chance to continue and further develop their train of thought.<br /><br />This idea was further reinforced in a course I just took where we did an "active listening" exercise in pairs. I had a pretty incredible realization! As I was speaking to my partner, uninterrupted, on a topic that I had been thinking a lot about, I was actually able to come to some new conclusions for myself. This, talking with someone that I met only a few hours beforehand. Pretty powerful stuff!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1291141841534650941.post-62045880724968186242010-06-10T17:37:03.479-04:002010-06-10T17:37:03.479-04:00I love that you are connecting this not just as a ...I love that you are connecting this not just as a training method, but as part of your life. As someone who always <i>intends</i> to start meditating, to just try and be silent and still and stop the constant go-go-go, do-everything chaos of life for even a few minutes to see how that affects how I feel and what I think afterward, I think that is a great idea. I think making that practice part of your non-work life can only help make it a more natural feature of your training. It won't feel as foreign or as uncomfortable.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00184004939607566036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1291141841534650941.post-5474710119454333492010-06-10T15:06:59.656-04:002010-06-10T15:06:59.656-04:00My boss has incorporated this into his complex con...My boss has incorporated this into his complex conversations. He often pauses and says, "I just need a moment." You can see the wheels turning as he reflects on what is going on, what has gone on, and where he wants to go. It is very effective.<br /><br />I look forward to insights as you go forward with this practice!Kiki Mullinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17647029048322114778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1291141841534650941.post-18748516696259149602010-06-10T13:14:31.257-04:002010-06-10T13:14:31.257-04:00I first learned about the uses of silence when I f...I first learned about the uses of silence when I facilitated support groups. The person who trained me to do this said that if no one in the group had anything to say, I should <i>not</i> jump in and feel I had to say something, but should just let the silence be, that eventually someone would speak.<br /><br />I sing in a Lutheran church, and during the service there are moments for prayer and reflection which I find restorative.<br /><br />As to thinking about things in a new way, I have really taken to heart <a href="http://babydramatic.blogspot.com/2010_05_01_archive.html" rel="nofollow">a sermon I heard recently about creativity and chaos</a> and have decided it is ok to let things be a little chaotic, which will make me more creative and my life more interesting.babydramatichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11781154122291850473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1291141841534650941.post-28850103058548389872010-06-09T17:06:44.094-04:002010-06-09T17:06:44.094-04:00Hi there,
I totally agree--a moment of slience is ...Hi there,<br />I totally agree--a moment of slience is so helpful and really does give everyone including the trainer a break to collect their thoughts about what was discussed. <br />I love that you have now made this something you will do on a daily basis....I can only imagine how you will feel.<br />I'd say I'd also use this when having active discourse with someone....taking time to really absorb what they are saying. Probably would make the discourse not be as long either!<br />Laura ScalaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com